Online counseling

Please read our pre-counseling information

Online counseling: Why is it so important?
Who needs it?
“What is in there for me?”
What can make you lovable?
What would the therapist think about my problem?
Where should I start?
What would it cost?
How does online-counseling work?
How can we serve you best?
“How do I pay?”
Pros and cons
Code of ethics
Informed Consent Form
Form to Release Confidential Information to another practitioner
Confidentiality and Documentation
Get to know our Therapist
What are the field of expertise?
Holidays

Please note: We are not medical practitioners, thus we cannot answer medical and/or sexual medical related questions.

1. Online counselling; why is it so important?

How does the (new) partner make you feel?

The opposite sex (or the same sex, if you are a homosexual) triggers of certain belief within the individual, especially the single.

Do your beliefs and feelings make you happy, confident and reassured?

Feelings of happiness, inner-strength and inner-love do not fall from heaven. They have to be created by using the right kind of belief-system.

Do you feel sad, angry, shy, inferior?

Feeling sad, angry, shy and/or inferior are all human emotions, however they are negative. The sooner you work through tem the quicker your heart is filled with love and joy again.

Do you date the 'wrong' partner?

Dating the wrong partner seems like going through the same door, " I've been here before!" In order to change tactics you need new information to establish a new mind set, a new strategy.

Do you feel emotionally 'stuck'?

Sometimes in our lives we all feel emotionally "stuck' in one way or another. One of the worst things one can do is to search for an intimate relationship.

The opposite sex (or the same sex, if you are a homosexual) triggers off certain beliefs within the individual, especially the single.

These beliefs are the origin of behaviour, good or bad decision-making, negative or positive attitudes, feelings of being loved, happiness, or feeling misery.

Frohmood Smart Sex-drive focuses on these beliefs that –nearly automatically- spring out of the subconscious to make people (singles) vulnerable and stuck.

So we ask the question again: How does the partner make you feel?

This little question makes many people think, and eventually they will take ownership of their own actions, feelings, vulnerability, unhappiness, and mental pressure.

Smart people have realised that they owe it to themselves to nurture their own soul; that they owe it to themselves not to waste life in misery and unhappiness; that they owe it to themselves to be happy, to grow emotionally, to change whatever needs changing to gain fulfilment.

It is your right to be happy.

The search starts with you. You see, you already possess 100% of love within you. You just have to find it within yourself. You don’t need to look for the missing percentages in the partner.

We will help you to develop the skills to find your inner- love, self-justice, and happiness.

2. Who needs online counseling?

“He sat on a park bench and wished someone would sit next to him to give him love and affection, to end his emotional starvation”, a stranger once said to me (Norbert Henke).

It is difficult for a suffering individual to help him/herself, when he/ she is engulfed in distress, pain, fear and sadness.

Sometimes in our lives there is a point reached where we start to psychological and emotionally imprison ourselves with the beliefs we use to handle and cope with certain situations. Frustration takes over when the trial and error approach to solve a problem becomes exhausting. A different strategy is more effective and it has nothing to do with intelligence. We ‘just’ have to change our beliefs. To make sure you use the right kind of beliefs we, the therapists, assist and guide you.

Before you become a martyr and self sacrifice yourself for not changing yourself, please take note that you are not alone.

Here are a few examples how some people suffered as well.

They are victims of domestic violence, victims of sexual abuse, victims of rape; some have a history of family violence.
Some were neglected as children; some people are shy, others have an inferiority complex.
For others punishment means the withdrawal of (parental) love.
Disadvantaged and handicapped during childhood can make people depressed, angry, hungry for love, jealous, violent and frustrated.
Some people are trapped by their ideas to constantly look for Mr or Mrs Right; others developed a fear or hate of the opposite sex partner.
People choose an unsuitable partner and therefore feel neglected, underpowered, submissive, angry, sexually starved, emotionally hungry and fighting for emotional survival.
Other people endure emotional pain and shame as they believe their penis is too small, their breasts are uneven or too small/big, or have unrealistic ideas about the love making process, or they believe they are too overweight and ugly.
Some people are too trusting, too gullible or too needy, which makes them vulnerable to financial and emotional exploitation.
After a nasty, painful relationship many people suffer from emotional baggage, which hinders their hope and progress of making a successful future relationship and last, but certainly not least,
for others their sex-drive gets in the way of making smart decisions to form a happy intimate relationship with a suitable partner.

How do you feel about yourself? How can we help?

3. “What is in there for me?”

A feeling of relief; hope; feeling good about yourself; making smart, good decisions; being more understanding and tolerant; being emotionally attractive and self-loving; you can become the ‘rock in the surf’ or a shoulder to cry on; being more caring for your fellow citizen; having a better attitude towards work; improve your work relationship with colleagues; coping with work stress; become confident to stand up for your rights (in relationship and work); producing your own happiness, self-love and ‘emotional’ food; become a better lover; become selective and smart in your partner choice; become emotionally true to your soul.

4. What can a person do to be loveable?

Their quest to become emotionally ‘whole’; their mission to improve themselves; their willingness to learn and change for the better; their uniqueness, their love and creativity; their individuality; their actions to care for other people, the environment, nature, animals; their fairness; their emotional strength and confidence; their energy; their considerate attitude towards their own sexuality; their inner-love and happiness; their emotional and sexual independence; their patience and tolerance; their kindness; their hunt for continuous love and happiness.

5. “What would the therapist think about my problem?”

Scared of us? Scared of the unknown?

As mental health professionals, i.e. counselors, psychotherapists, psychologists, social workers, online therapists, online counselors, GP’s, we find immense pleasure and an inner calling to help others become stronger.

We are not judges or parental figures who criticise, judge or tell you “you must be mad.”

We don’t think bad ‘things’ of what we hear from our clients. We don’t label anyone. We have heard similar stories probably hundreds of times. We listen to your story and think of ways and methods to show you a different alternative.

Let me explain how some fears, and correspondingly -beliefs- come to being.

Imagine a 5year old child is on a holiday with it’s parents, who decided to stay the night in a hotel in a forest. During the night it was raining heavily, there was thunder and lightning. The child looked outside the window into the dark night as suddenly a bright lightning bolt lit up the surroundings for a split second. However, this brief moment was enough to scare the child. Why? The flash distorted the light and made harmless trees look like evil monsters. The child could not objectively interpret this scenario and so it stayed in the child’s memory, evoking fears of the night, thunder and lightning and the dark forest.

This child grows into an adult and informs a therapist, online therapist, online counselor or other mental professionals about the fears he or she feels. We then listen and talk about it, while gradually ‘zooming in’ on the target issue (concern). We would interpret these evil looking monsters as harmless trees.

You see there is no sign of embarrassment or sign of madness. Just a ‘wrong’ belief was established back then. That’s all.

The same is happening when we deal with our partner. Something is triggered off in the subconscious, which either makes us feel happy, unloved, inferior and so on.

Thus the question, “How does the partner make you feel?”

Tell us how you feel.

It’s so easy. Give it a try.

6. “Where should I start?”

When you are ready, the procedure is easy.

Select a service that is suitable for you
choose which package you prefer;
select a payment option and click;
choose the therapist you prefer;
next you will see the -Informed Consent Form- and the -Form to Release Confidential Information to another competent therapist. Please click once you have read them.
Now you are ready to make contact with the online therapist/ online counselor.

7. What will it cost?

Your first email is introductory and is absolutely free, ca. 200 words.

When we receive your email we will consider whether this online therapist is competent to answer your concerns or whether we need to refer you to one of our other online therapist/ online counselor who is experienced in this field.

1 email US$30.00 AUS$45.00 (appro. 450-500 words)

3 email US $80.00 AUS$ 120.00

6 Email US$150.00 AUS$ 220.00 (currency rate from 11 June 2006)

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8. How does online-counseling work?

You email us and we answer back within 24 to 36 hours.

In your email you can express how you feel, what you think, what you have experienced, what you are afraid of and so on.

If your email is a simple question, e.g. “Shall I pay for my partner’s dinner?” You will get a straight answer back. However, when we read concern that is more complex, e.g., “when I meet someone attractive I get an inferior-complex,” it would be of advantage to discuss these issues more deeply and thoroughly,- to get to the core of things - for the last time.

Emailing is not the same as face-to-face therapy. It is harder for the online therapist as he/she is not able to observe body language and other non-verbal signs. However, because emailing is so convenient, quick and non-confronting it is a good way to start your self-improvement.

9. How can we serve you best?

On occasions, it would be best to talk to our online therapists on the phone. You discuss your concern with a ‘real’ person who can interact with you much better.

Remember we are here to help. The more you disclose of yourself, the better and faster (and thus cheaper) we can help you. The money you invest in online counseling might scare you off initially, but if you consider the emotional cost (and the financial price you pay) over a life time, online counseling is only a small amount.

10. How do I pay?

Please click here to start you online counseling.

11. Pros and cons

The advantages are different from the disadvantages.

Online counseling is an important necessity, especially when people live in remote regions or therapists are not available.

The advantages are:

The factor of embarrassment is greatly reduced
You can let off as much steam as you like when writing emails to your online therapist.
You don’t have the feeling the therapist is staring you in the face and judging you
You can email at any hour of the day without leaving the house
You might touch on some issues, e.g. impotency, which you normally may find difficult to discuss eye-to-eye with a therapist
It is an easy way to gain knowledge of important issues
It is a great method to avoid costly and painful mistakes
It is terrific to put an end to crippling self-doubt, undiscovered potential and emotional and/or sexual blackmail
You can re-read the return emails to stay focused
The online therapist/ online counselor does not see you cry (although you should mention this in your email)

The disadvantages are:

Body language and other non-verbal cues, e.g. clenching the fists, heavy breathing, crying, eye contact are not available to the online therapist/ online counselor to provide an intuitive guess
Certain problems cannot be solved via the internet
Words can be construed differently, especially when some time has elapsed. Therefore, meanings have to be explained thoroughly, and additional questions have to be asked
The response time is not immediate. Pressing issues like suicidal thoughts and intention cannot be addressed at once

You see there are different advantages -and disadvantages. Convenience is probably the biggest advantage. Although to make a smart decision you need to know also the disadvantages.

12. Code of ethics

The Professional Counselor and therapist (online therapist/online counselor) shall at all times maintain the highest possible standards of professional, ethical and moral conduct in all matters pertaining to clients, the institute and members of the general public.

The professional Counselor and therapist (online therapist/ online counselor) shall at all times observe absolute confidentiality in all matters pertaining to the business of clients and their counsel.

The Professional counselor and therapist shall at all times faithfully meet with the requirements of legislation in the areas of Workplace Health and Safety, Human rights and Equal opportunity, Discrimination and local Government Health Regulations.

The Professional counselor and therapist (online therapist/ online counselor) shall at all times maintain the best policies of referral practice to ensure that clients have opportunity to receive appropriate qualified advice.

13. Informed consent form

Welcome to Frohmood Psychotherapy.

Before your counseling interview begins, we would like to make you aware of your rights as a client by setting out the terms and conditions under which counseling/psychotherapy will be conducted.

All Counselors and therapists of this practice will act in an ethical and professional manner.
All counselors and therapists( online therapists/ online counselor) are qualified in counselling.
Although Counselors and therapists will respect the confidentiality of the client, we reserve the right to consult with colleagues or supervisors if the need arises only on issues relating to the client’s case and continuing development.
Counselors and therapists reserve the right to refer clients to other professional services when they consider this course of action to be in the best interest of the client.
Counselors and therapists reserve the right to inform outside agencies or other interested parties on issues relating to client’s confidentiality as law dictates.
Counselors will seek additional information so that a clear understanding can be shaped from the online correspondence.
Emails and any other written case notes of the client with this practice are securely stored on the premises.
The free initial email consists of appro. 200 words, any other emailsconsist of between 250 -500 words.
The personal information you supply to us must be correct.
A guardian is required if you are under age.

Please read through the above information carefully and click the accept button below to confirm that you have read and accept the condition above.

14. Form to release confidential data to a competent practitioner

I give permission to Frohmood Psychotherapy to contact other professional of competent status. This information will be used to assist us in planning future treatment goals for the identified client.

Please read these terms above.

15. Confidentiality and Documentation

The content of sessions is confidential to you and Frohmood Psychotherapy’s online therapist/ online counselor. The online therapist will need to discuss our work with a supervisor, however no names are revealed.

It is important that you also respect the confidentiality of the sessions. Although friends are well meaning and concerned, their comments are bound to affect the therapeutic relationship.

If you turn to your doctor because of your emotional difficulties, it is important that he or she knows about us, Frohmood Psychotherapy’s online therapist/ online counselor and vice versa, and we both have your permission to confer, if necessary. We will not communicate with your doctor without your permission and knowledge of what we wish to discuss.

We store all emails securely stored on the premises.

16. Get to know our online therapist

Click Therapists here to view online therapists/online counselor

17. What are our fields of expertise?

Our fields of expertise are the following: Marriage and relationship issues, Grief counseling, trauma, counselling of sexual abuse, rape victims, fetishes, homosexual issues, domestic violence, low self-esteem, anger management, sexual issues, self-management issues,

Please note: We cannot answer medical and/or sexual medical questions. Please consult your local GP. When the need arises we refer you on to practitioners who are qualified in particular fields and issues.

Please be informed that with email correspondence certain important component such as spontaneity, quick response in emergencies and the absence of non-verbal queues are not available.

18. Holidays

Christmas, Easter and during the summer (December/January) most online therapist/online counselor will take time off for a needed rest.

Please refer to each online therapist’s /online counselor holiday schedule.

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